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    • Wedding Invitations ~ Dos and Don'ts

       

       

      Your wedding invitations set the tone for your wedding. Whether they are formal, fun, vintage or traditional they are your guest's first glimpse into what they can expect on your special day. The wedding theme you have chosen such as; a beach wedding, vintage, Paris or country theme may be included on the invite, as well as the colors you have chosen for your big day.

       

      In addition to the theme there are other things you'll want to keep in mind along the way. When should you send your wedding invitations? How should you address them? What other things should you include? On the Charming Chick blog today we are going to discuss a few of the main dos and don'ts of wedding invitations.

       

       

       

      Wedding Invitation Dos and Don'ts

       

      Do order plenty of extra wedding invitations. This will ensure that you have enough for any last minute folks you forget and also extras in case you make a mistake while addressing them.

       

      Don't wait until the last minute to order and send invites. Make sure you find out how long it will take to order the invites, plan for your time to address them (or have someone else address them) and have them set to go out at least 6-8 weeks before the big event. This will ensure that those folks who have to make travel arrangements will have plenty of time to do so.

       

      Do ask for help while addressing invites. If you have any wonderful friends in your bridal party who have beautiful handwriting and are detail oriented, this could be the perfect opportunity for them to help you. There are also services either through the printer you order from or you can hire a calligrapher to address them for you.

       

      Don't put "No Children" or "Adult Reception" on the invitations. Instead try to get the word out through friends and family that you prefer not to have children at the reception. Also, when you address the invitation do not include the children's names. If you would like to have children at the reception be sure to include their names on the invitation. The outer envelope should be addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and the inner envelope should be addressed to the entire family.

       

      Do have a plan about how you will keep track of responses. Will they be sent to you or will your parents be in charge of tracking them?

       

      Don't forget to put together a wedding website. This is a fantastic way to let people know how the two of you met and fell in love, where your registered, what hotels you have negotiated lower rates with, directions to your venues and any other information you think your guests should be aware of.

       

      There are so many other dos and don'ts that aren't included here. Your printer can be a valuable resource of wedding invitation information as well as Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette.

    • Wedding Cake Etiquette -- Cake Knives and Servers

      One of the main highlights of your wedding reception will be -- the cutting of the cake.  Once you have decided how your wedding cake will look and taste, after you have picked out your cake knife and server, and selected the perfect topper; your thoughts may turn to wedding cake etiquette and tradition.

      You may have some questions  like -- when should the wedding cake be served? Is the groom's cake served at the same time? Who should cut the cake? How do you cut the cake? Is a cake knife and server all we will need to have on hand--  or are other utensils required?

      At Charming Chick, we would like to give you a few helpful tips; which will help answer these questions and ensure that your cake cutting ceremony goes smoothly.

      Who Cuts the Cake?

      Traditionally, the bride and groom cut the first piece of cake. This is done as a symbol of unity. With the bride's right hand on the knife handle -- the groom carefully places his hand on top of hers and they make the first cut together; then they enjoy the first bite.

      Wedding cake etiquette then states that the bride serves the groom's parents -- and then groom serves the bride's parents. After this is done, all the other wedding guest may be served.

      So, who serves up the rest of the cake? It's an excellent idea to decide who will cut  - and serve - the rest of the cake before your wedding day. You don't want to burden your guests by just assuming that someone will step in and do the cutting for you.

      Your caterer or cake designer are the best people to assign this task to - be aware that there is normally a cake cutting fee - which will be added for this service. It is well worth the money because they are experienced and will do the job right. Cake cutting isn't as simple as some may think. However, if you would like to give this task to someone who has offered to help; then it would be a really good idea for that person to study a cake cutting guide and have it on hand the day of your wedding.

       

       

       

      When Should the Cake be Served?

      Wedding cake etiquette states, that this is usually done at the end of the reception. The cake cutting ceremony signifies the end of the reception and lets or guests know that it is okay for them to leave --  without it being considered rude.

      Many brides and grooms today do the cake cutting right after dinner. If you decide to do this, just be aware that this is the time when your guests will start to slowly exit.

      If you choose to have a Groom's Cake -- it is usually cut and wrapped so that guests may take a piece with them as they leave. 

       

      Don't Forget about YOU!

      Chances are pretty good that you are going to be so busy running around saying hello, posing for photos, dancing and smiling that you probably won't have the opportunity to have a piece cake for yourself (besides of course the one bite you took during cake cutting). That is why wedding cake tradition also states that the top-tier (assuming you have one) is to be removed and carefully wrapped and refrigerated for the bride and groom to enjoy after they return from their honeymoon.

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