One of the main highlights of your wedding reception will be -- the cutting of the cake. Once you have decided how your wedding cake will look and taste, after you have picked out your cake knife and server, and selected the perfect topper; your thoughts may turn to wedding cake etiquette and tradition.
You may have some questions like -- when should the wedding cake be served? Is the groom's cake served at the same time? Who should cut the cake? How do you cut the cake? Is a cake knife and server all we will need to have on hand-- or are other utensils required?
At Charming Chick, we would like to give you a few helpful tips; which will help answer these questions and ensure that your cake cutting ceremony goes smoothly.
Who Cuts the Cake?
Traditionally, the bride and groom cut the first piece of cake. This is done as a symbol of unity. With the bride's right hand on the knife handle -- the groom carefully places his hand on top of hers and they make the first cut together; then they enjoy the first bite.
Wedding cake etiquette then states that the bride serves the groom's parents -- and then groom serves the bride's parents. After this is done, all the other wedding guest may be served.
So, who serves up the rest of the cake? It's an excellent idea to decide who will cut - and serve - the rest of the cake before your wedding day. You don't want to burden your guests by just assuming that someone will step in and do the cutting for you.
Your caterer or cake designer are the best people to assign this task to - be aware that there is normally a cake cutting fee - which will be added for this service. It is well worth the money because they are experienced and will do the job right. Cake cutting isn't as simple as some may think. However, if you would like to give this task to someone who has offered to help; then it would be a really good idea for that person to study a cake cutting guide and have it on hand the day of your wedding.
When Should the Cake be Served?
Wedding cake etiquette states, that this is usually done at the end of the reception. The cake cutting ceremony signifies the end of the reception and lets or guests know that it is okay for them to leave -- without it being considered rude.
Many brides and grooms today do the cake cutting right after dinner. If you decide to do this, just be aware that this is the time when your guests will start to slowly exit.
If you choose to have a Groom's Cake -- it is usually cut and wrapped so that guests may take a piece with them as they leave.
Don't Forget about YOU!
Chances are pretty good that you are going to be so busy running around saying hello, posing for photos, dancing and smiling that you probably won't have the opportunity to have a piece cake for yourself (besides of course the one bite you took during cake cutting). That is why wedding cake tradition also states that the top-tier (assuming you have one) is to be removed and carefully wrapped and refrigerated for the bride and groom to enjoy after they return from their honeymoon.