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  • Baby Shower Etiquette

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Baby Shower Etiquette

     

    Baby Shower Etiquette has changed a bit over the years but there are some things that have stayed the same. Today on the Charming Chick blog we will address some of the most commonly asked Baby Shower Etiquette questions -- but first we'll examine a little bit of the history and the purpose of a baby shower.

     

    Baby showers actually date back to ancient times. Of course they weren't really anything that we think of today. They were a lot less of a "party" and more or a "ritual"  -- or right of passage. Sometimes it involved going to a temple to dispose of the after birth, or to witness a baby naming ceremony. Through the years these rituals evolved into other rituals where mothers could share their experience and perhaps items that their children had outgrown, with the new mothers. Today we typically throw baby showers before the baby is born, but long ago it was customary to wait until after the infants birth -- sometimes a month or more. Today baby showers are generally filled with food, fun and games. Mothers-to-Be and their little bundles are "showered" with gifts from loving friends and family!

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Though etiquette has become a little more relaxed over the years but some people hold tight to the old traditions. Here are the answers to some of the most commonly asked baby shower etiquette questions.

     

    Q. Who should host a baby shower.

     

    A. Baby showers are usually given by close friends of the mother-to-be. A long standing rule of baby shower etiquette is that it looks "greedy" if the soon-to-be grandmother or other close family member hosts the shower. Some folks still hold firm to this rule, however, etiquette rules have relaxed a bit and mothers, sisters, cousins, aunts, etc. have been known to host baby showers. The mother-to-be should not host her own shower however.

     

    Q. Who pays for the costs associated with the baby shower?

     

    A. Baby shower etiquette typically states that the person hosting the baby shower pays for everything needed for the party. However, there is nothing wrong with a group of friends getting together to host and share the responsibility and the cost.

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    Q. When should the baby shower be held?

     

    A. Baby showers are usually held about 2-3 months before the estimated due date but they can honestly be held anytime. If the parents-to-be are finding out the gender and will be sharing the news with others, it's fun to wait until that announcement so guests can purchase gifts related to that gender -- but it's certainly not necessary.

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    Q. If this isn't a first child (i.e. 2nd, 3rd, 4th), should a baby shower still be given?

     

    A. The general rule of etiquette is...no, if it's not a first child there should not be another shower given. However, baby shower etiquette rules have relaxed a bit in recent years and it is not uncommon for people to have a celebration for each child. They are sometimes called "Sprinkles" or "Diaper Showers" These are intended to give the mother-to-be items that she may not have left over from her previous children. Also, if there is a big gap (5 years or more) between children, it's a child in a new relationship, you have moved and have a new set of friends, then it is common to have another baby shower.

     

    Be sure to visit our Baby Shower Planning Ideas board on Pinterest for LOTS of great inspiration!!

     

  • Wedding Invitations ~ Dos and Don'ts

     

     

    Your wedding invitations set the tone for your wedding. Whether they are formal, fun, vintage or traditional they are your guest's first glimpse into what they can expect on your special day. The wedding theme you have chosen such as; a beach wedding, vintage, Paris or country theme may be included on the invite, as well as the colors you have chosen for your big day.

     

    In addition to the theme there are other things you'll want to keep in mind along the way. When should you send your wedding invitations? How should you address them? What other things should you include? On the Charming Chick blog today we are going to discuss a few of the main dos and don'ts of wedding invitations.

     

     

     

    Wedding Invitation Dos and Don'ts

     

    Do order plenty of extra wedding invitations. This will ensure that you have enough for any last minute folks you forget and also extras in case you make a mistake while addressing them.

     

    Don't wait until the last minute to order and send invites. Make sure you find out how long it will take to order the invites, plan for your time to address them (or have someone else address them) and have them set to go out at least 6-8 weeks before the big event. This will ensure that those folks who have to make travel arrangements will have plenty of time to do so.

     

    Do ask for help while addressing invites. If you have any wonderful friends in your bridal party who have beautiful handwriting and are detail oriented, this could be the perfect opportunity for them to help you. There are also services either through the printer you order from or you can hire a calligrapher to address them for you.

     

    Don't put "No Children" or "Adult Reception" on the invitations. Instead try to get the word out through friends and family that you prefer not to have children at the reception. Also, when you address the invitation do not include the children's names. If you would like to have children at the reception be sure to include their names on the invitation. The outer envelope should be addressed to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and the inner envelope should be addressed to the entire family.

     

    Do have a plan about how you will keep track of responses. Will they be sent to you or will your parents be in charge of tracking them?

     

    Don't forget to put together a wedding website. This is a fantastic way to let people know how the two of you met and fell in love, where your registered, what hotels you have negotiated lower rates with, directions to your venues and any other information you think your guests should be aware of.

     

    There are so many other dos and don'ts that aren't included here. Your printer can be a valuable resource of wedding invitation information as well as Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette.

  • Vow Renewals ~ Saying {I Do} All over Again

     

    A popular trend for couples celebrating big wedding anniversaries -- is to commemorate the milestone with a Vow Renewal Ceremony. Maybe the couple eloped, or had a small informal wedding, or maybe -  time has passed - and they just want to stand before their family, friends and children -- to reaffirm their life-long vow and deep commitment. Whatever the reason, if you are thinking that a vow renewal is something you and your spouse would like to do, then keep reading. Today on the Charming Chick blog,we are featuring a few - vow renewal - "how tos."

     

     

    1. Who Hosts a Renewal?

    Most of the time the couple hosts the event. However - especially if it is for a special anniversary - the couples children, or even very close friends, will host. Some couple choose to hire a Wedding Planner - but many times - couples just plan their own event. It really depends on how extravagant the affair will be. Vow renewals can be as simple as a family BBQ in the backyard, as formal as a sit down five-course meal or even take place on a tropical beach. 

      

    2. Is a vow renewal just a second wedding?

    No -- it is a reaffirming your love and commitment. You don't need attendants unless you want them, there is no bridal shower, bachelor/bachelorette parties to plan, and because this is not a legally binding ceremony -- anyone can officiate.

    A vow renewal tends to be more low key and intimate than a wedding. The couple is usually surrounded by close friends and family. The wife generally wears a beautiful dress and the husband -- a suit. Anything goes - it's is your day after all - but the attire is generally much less formal than a traditional first wedding.

     

      

    3. The celebration!

    Many couples decide to upgrade their existing - or buy new - wedding rings. Because of this, there is usually a ring exchange, along with the vow renewal. It is also very common for couples to write their own vows for the occasion. This adds a unique and deeply meanful personal touch.

    After the renewal ceremony there is usually a celebration, food and a lot of great conversation. I highly recommend hiring a photographer for the event. This is the perfect time - not only to get snapshots to remember this beautiful and special day - but a fabulous time to get beautiful family photos as well.

     

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